if you're in your, say, 50s and you have a husband who'd been through a lot of medical problems and now he's a victim of illnesses, so he basically can't do "it" anymore. what would you do to fulfill your high drive for sex? okay, maybe not high drive but when you're in your 50s i believe sex is important as when you're... say, 16. being 50, 55, 60..... does not stop someone from wanting to have sex.
i have many questions in my head:
/ would you have sex else where with other men/another man?
/ would you think that it's selfish for a woman in this situation to fulfill her sexual needs, to seek other ways instead of her ill husband?
/ would you call her a "bitch", "unfaithful hoe", "cheating, horny slut"?
it's funny how american movies have taught me so much - they've confused me a big deal whether or not situations like these are "cheating". because at one point, one would feel sympathetic for the woman. one would feel sorry for the woman because she is not satisfied, sexually.
but in another, completely different view from a different person, she's cheating on her sick, unable-to-have-sex husband. heartless and hypocritical.
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one of the movies i watched recently, "the dilemma" with vince vaughn innit. in that movie, he caught his bestfriend (kevin james)'s wife with another younger man (helloooooo channing tatum) because his bestfriend wasn't able to give her sex. he was so busy and upset and stressed over his work, he wasn't able to give his wife (winona ryder, hellooooooooo there) sex, for half a year.
/ is it selfish of him not sacrificing his emotions for his wife?
/ is it selfish of him to not consider the fact that his wife still needs sex?
/ is it selfish of him to put his wife aside, not making an effort to give it to her?
so okay, winono ryder found channing tatum, a younger, sexier man who gave her so much sex, she's practically HAPPY because someone out there gave her something that her husband couldn't.
becoming selfish:
wanting to feel feel wanted, reserve something for yourself, to give yourself happiness - is this being selfish?
OR
trying your best to work things out at work, not giving your wife sex because you're really always tired and stressed, trying to earn money and prove people wrong, neglecting your wife because work comes first - is this being selfish?
do we think of ourselves first or do we put others before? of course, i know there are various scenarios and situations in the entire world. i just don't get how people gauge selfishness. if you think that someone is being selfish, have you ever put yourself in that someone's shoes and think why they do the things they do?
how do we actually gauge this whole "selfishness" thing?
what is the criteria for being a selfish?
for me, i don't know what is selfish, really... i don't know if i'm contradicting myself but if i'm put in a spot where i have to sacrifice myself for my loved ones, i would stop thinking about... me.
what about you?
after all these chunks of words, listen to angus and julia stone - soothing, powerful voices... i fucking love them.
